Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 1, 2020

Teachable Moment About Social Invitations


Mothers: Have you ever turned down a social invitation in order to spend time with your family or tend to your home? Tell your children (especially your daughters). That's a great opportunity to teach them that one, it's okay to say no sometimes, two, family time should be protected and treasured, and three, that you DO have a life and friends outside of your home.

And by the way . . . say YES to one or two of those invitations!

#guardfamilytime #beinterestingtoyourchildren

Monday, March 23, 2020

Don’t Waste Your Coronavirus Quarantine


I can honestly say that if it weren’t for the robust sermon that my pastor preached the last time we met in person, my Loopy Factor would be substantially higher than today’s meter is registering.

One of my biggest lightbulb moments occurred when he referenced John Piper’s “don’t waste” series (don’t waste your life, your time, your cancer, etc.) Our pastor encouraged us to embrace this time at home—be still, and figure out how not to waste this unprecedented time.

Well, I’m always at home. My office-based career changed when a sweet-smelling little 8-pounder was placed in my arms. I come from a long line of homebodies, so I have plenty of stamina for this time. But I don’t want these days to look like all the others.

I started thinking of my children, who are always watching (especially my little one--anyone else have a Nosy Rosey?) This is a big deal, a historical event, and something that will be talked about for years to come. It’s my job to make an impact. What will they see over these next few weeks?

I want them to see me submit to authority. Regardless of our personal feelings about elected officials, they have a huge team of highly trained scientists giving them advice. They want success, and success to them means a low number of deaths in our country. Now would be a great time to consider Hebrews 13:17 as a family.

I want them to see me treasuring our family time. We’ve seen the jokes about how we’d almost rather take our chances with this virus than have to teach our children Proof Theory, but be careful that they don’t overhear you complaining about having extra time with them. (Matthew 18:10)

I want them to see me acting out of faith-filled confidence. You know the deal—trust the Lord and wash your hands. Hope for vaccines and medicine and good health, but don’t turn any of that into an idol. (Proverbs 14:26)

I want them to see me loving my community. I will be checking on my elderly friends daily, and if they need food or medicine or even if they just get a hankering for their favorite brand of gingersnaps, I’m going to be available to them. (Galatians 6:10)

I want them to see me being resilient. This one is hard for all of us; even our most extroverted and spontaneous loved ones still like their routines, right? But no one’s life turns out exactly the way we expect (and if yours has so far, then hang on). You know how you put an address into the GPS but then ignore its directions for a few steps? What message pops up on the screen? “Recalculating.” That’s what we all need to learn to do in these days. (I Thessalonians 5:18)

These are also days to relax the rules a bit. There should be pajama parties, slightly later bedtimes (don’t go crazy—kids need structure, and you need that time to spend with your spouse or to take time for yourself), movie and popcorn nights, and a lot of family time. Our grandchildren are going to ask our children what this experience was like. Let’s plant some seeds (and make some memories)!

--Andrea (with gratitude and virtual hugs to Pastor Chuck Parker)

Tuesday, March 17, 2020

A Tradition of Faith

There's a new trend that we are loving: buy a new Bible with extra large margins and then spend a year (or more) reading it, highlighting your favorite passages, and writing notes in the margins--for the purpose of giving it to your oldest child. Then buy another one and start all over for your next child. Some couples divide them up--Mom does Bibles for the girls and Dads for the boys.

Have you done this for your children? Please join our Facebook discussion and tell us all about it!


Tuesday, March 10, 2020

For Our Daughters

A lesson for our daughters:



LEARN TO TAKE A COMPLIMENT with the grace and ladylike manner the good Lord intended for you!

YOU are HIS creation . . . and it is GOOD!

Wednesday, February 19, 2020

Encourage Independence

If your children are over age two, encourage their independence.

Let go of the lie that boundaries are bad.

Children must learn to do for themselves in order to desire doing for others. Esteeming a child to the point that he still believes he is the center of your world beyond age two produces the opposite result most well-intentioned parents want. Your goal is to foster self respect, which grows respect for others.

Holding on to your image of that sweet babe (who, just yesterday was swaddled so tight!), keeps him and YOU from much happiness and growth.

--Stacey

Monday, February 10, 2020

Managing fear


Whether it's a big storm or a weird shadow in the middle of the night, scary moments are going to happen for our children. When they do, you can bet they'll be watching to see how WE react to them. Adults who are calm and fully in charge in the home allow their children to be children: less anxiety and more self-confidence.

Wednesday, October 23, 2019

Weekend Plans


Got big plans for this weekend? Does your kid have one or 17 invitations to various birthday celebrations over the next two months?

Yeah. Us too.

Listen to this:

Thursday, October 10, 2019

On the Same Page


Husbands and wives: are you on the same page today? “Singing from the same sheet of music,” as the old expression goes?

(Notice we didn't say "Dad and Mom.")

Check out this video and let us know how you stay connected during this crazy season.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q6ZOd50oQtI&t=23s

By the way . . . we have a huge male fan base at the Happily Parenting Headquarters. Maybe you'll see why at the end of this video.

#areyouhappilyparenting #areyouhappilymarried #ifyourenothavingfunyouredoingitwrong

Tuesday, October 1, 2019

Two Simple Things: HUGE Pay-Off


There are two things that you can do to drastically improve your children’s lives spiritually, emotionally, socially, academically, and mentally.

Want to know what they are? Take a look here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PzSPePxxtcc

Such small effort . . . such a huge pay-off.

Tuesday, September 24, 2019

Look him in the eye!

What do you do when your children become shy around adults?

Give them some tools to overcome those moments! Here's one story that might help:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpV0bhnBd0o

Look for more videos from Happily Parenting on YouTube!

Friday, September 20, 2019

Wednesday, September 18, 2019

Happily Parenting YouTube Channel




We're big fans of articles, blogs, and the written word, but sometimes there's nothing like a good video. If you need some encouragement, some laughs, or just something to play in the background as you go about your day, join us over at our Happily Parenting YouTube Channel! New videos will be posted soon, so keep checking or subscribe for updates!
 

Tuesday, September 17, 2019

Discipline



What do you think when you use the word "discipline"? Do you enjoy being with (or working with) people who are NOT disciplined? Listen to this teachable moment on our Happily Parenting YouTube channel.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6trLD1MbNU4


And as we always say . . . if you're not having fun (for the most part!), you're doing it wrong!

#areyouhappilyparenting

Tuesday, September 10, 2019

"You're going to let us have WHAT?"

As a parent, do you know when to bring the hammer down and when to let loose? Do you know how and when to shock your children with a rare "YES" moment?

'Cause if it isn't rare, it's not gonna work . . . .

Listen to this story and see if you can relate.




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7xsmQ5ENLW0

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Sunday, September 8, 2019

Never Stop



The fall and winter months can be FULL to say the least, and there may be days when your only quiet times are the 30 seconds before you fall asleep.

Does that sound familiar?

If you find yourself lacking quality time to focus on your relationship with God, keep this verse in mind. You can (and should) pray while you're changing diapers, driving to school (eyes open OB-viously), baking cupcakes, listening to a conference call, homeschooling, working on that overdue report, ironing your husband's pants, and yes, in those 30 seconds before you fall asleep.

We have a Father who hears our thoughts and knows our hearts at ALL times.

 

Friday, September 6, 2019

Balance



Balance.

Any healthcare professional will tell you that good health is largely dependent on balance. Work and play. Cardiovascular exercise and good stretches. Fruits and vegetables with the occasional cupcake.

Balance is a big deal for the health of your family dynamic, too. If all of the attention is on one person (or one CHILD), the health of the family suffers. If one child is controlling the whole family--whether it's through his/her behavior or his/her extracurricular activities--then the peace of the family is upset. And there's no balance in that.

If your family is child-centered, then your child will grow up to be self-centered.

God's design is for the relationship between husbands and wives to be second only to our relationships with Him. In other words, Dad and Mom need to put Him first, each other second, and the children (with attention distributed equally to all) come next.

#areyouhappilyparenting #itsnotaboutyou #ifyourenothavingfunyouredoingitwrong

--Stacey