If your children are over age two, encourage their independence.
of the lie that boundaries are bad.
Children must learn to do for
themselves in order to desire doing for others. Esteeming a child to
the point that he still believes he is the center of your world beyond
age two produces the opposite result most well-intentioned parents want.
Your goal is to foster self respect, which grows respect for others.
Holding on to your image of that sweet babe (who, just yesterday was
swaddled so tight!), keeps him and YOU from much happiness and growth.